For many people, divorce is one of the most stressful things they go through in life. When emotions are running on high, it can be difficult to make good decisions during a complicated legal process like divorce. Unfortunately, poor decisions made during a divorce can cause a lifetime of regret.
In a recent article, a divorce lawyer and author of the book “Breaking Free: A Step-By-Step Divorce Guide to Emotional, Physical and Spiritual Freedom,” outlined seven of the most crucial mistakes that are commonly made by women during divorce. We will outline a few of the mistakes — many of which can also apply to men — here.
First, the author said too many spouses go into divorce with little to no understanding of their family’s finances. This can be a crucial mistake because it allows the other spouse to take advantage by moving funds or hiding assets.
Next, the author said another huge mistake is failing to use a divorce lawyer. Too many people think that they can handle the divorce process on their own only to be taken advantage of by the other spouse or walk away with less than they are entitled to.
A third big mistake is focusing too heavily on getting even, the author said. The divorce process is about fairly dividing marital property and working out custody issues, not about punishing one spouse for bad behavior. In fact, all states now follow no-fault divorce laws, so fault doesn’t matter.
The author said a final crucial error made during divorce is giving in too soon. Women, especially, just want the divorce to be over with so they take less than what they are entitled to, the author explained.
All of these mistakes show why it’s important to go through your divorce with an experienced family law attorney on your side. Your attorney can guide you through the divorce process and help you make decisions that are in your best interests. Divorce is not an easy journey, which is why it’s important to go through it with help.
Source: CafeMom’s blog, The Stir, “The Top 7 Mistakes Women Make In Divorce, According To A Lawyer Who’s Seen It All,” Adriana Velez, Sept. 15, 2014